Try some self-love this Valentine's Day
Valentine’s Day reminds us about the importance of love. This year, why not get in the flow of loving yourself—whether you are in a relationship or not. Tuning in to what you really need and granting yourself the same compassion that you give to others is crucial to well‑being. Self-love can also help you to push past your limiting beliefs and create a better life, and who doesn’t want that?
Here are 5 ways that you can be good to yourself this Valentine’s Day and beyond:
Take care of your body
Eating healthy food, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep are all important acts of self‑love.
Valuing your time and energy is crucial to self‑love. If you set boundaries that define what you can and cannot do, you’re more likely to be able to support those that you hold dear.
The key is to make it clear that you are rejecting the request, not the person. Use firm but polite statements such as “It’s great to hear from you, but I will have to call you back later, I’m rather busy right now”. Saying ‘no’ might take you out of your comfort zone but it can also earn you respect.
Surround yourself with beauty
The spaces that you spend a lot of time in can play a big part in how you feel. Consciously creating a pleasing environment at home or the office is a great way to practise self-love. Being mindful of the impact of what you can see, hear, smell and touch is vital to being happier, more focused and relaxed.
Write a list of the things that you like about yourself
Have you ever taken stock of the good things that naturally flow from within you? Making a list of all the things you like about yourself is an effective way to build self-esteem. If you don’t know where to start, try the following exercise from psychologytoday.com:
- Keep a notebook and pen next to your bed and before you go to sleep, write down 3 things you like about yourself or did well during the day.
- The following morning read the list before you get up.
- Add three new things to your list every day, for 30 days.
Everyone acts in ways that they later regret. Forgiving yourself for past mistakes will help you to keep your heart open to new experiences and self-love. It can take time and effort to let go of shame and embarrassment but doing so is essential to creating healthy relationships with others and yourself. Click here to learn how use mindfulness to tame the negative feelings that can come from self-judgement.